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Jo's avatar

I think a lot about how to reach people who are most comfortable in 'fuck it' mode. I spent a long time in that default mode myself, not even realizing I was there. And I might still be there, just in a different corner.

The attitude is never purely external--how people choose to relate to the world and others--you can't say "fuck it" without first ignoring a conscientious, curious, or doubting part of yourself.

In America there are so many ways to crush that part of a person. Our public school generally seems designed for that purpose. Suburban car-based culture helps: the more time one spends alone, atomized, or with a nuclear family all in the same boat, the fewer opportunities one has to question their impulsive "fuck it" default, or experience the reward of seeking novelty. Add in a dash of sheer terror--and as a suburbs-bred American woman I can tell you, that ethos thrives on inculcating in women the terror that abduction or assault lies around any unfamiliar corner--and you can start to see how people get in the habit of ignoring the part of themselves that is routinely punished, denied, neglected, ignored, and associated with danger.

It's not "stupid power". It's "trauma power". This is one of those rare cases where political correctness overlaps with real empathy. I think our way out of this default mode has to start with that empathy.

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Nina Tatlock's avatar

When I hear people say that America was founded as a Christian Nation, my response is that I could never imagine Jesus Christ coming over here and massacring all of those native people.

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